This week I had two very important people in my life take quizzes about how they felt I was as a communicator. The two people was my mom and my goodfriend Karissa. I felt that both of these ladies know me very well, and out all of the people in the world, I have probably communicated the most with them.
Scale 1: Communication Anxiety Inventory
All three of us was the same! We all said that I feel comfortable communicating in most situations. My mom added, "Sometimes too comfortable!" It makes sense because for a living I am a Early Childhood trainer, and train in a different part of the United States every week. So we all agreed via phone and text, that I am pretty much a social bug, and love to meet new people.
Scale 2: Verbal Aggressiveness Scale
Okay, this is one scale I can definitely improve with, and we all said that. My mom and I both said that I landed in the significant zone, but barely, I was right on the 69 that was required. Karissa gave me a moderate, because she said, "That she only sees that side of me when I am upset, which makes sense."
Scale 3: Listening Styles Profile
This was one area that both ladies said I could improve on. My mother shared with me that I am on my cell phone quite a bit during our dinner dates, and that she can't finish an entire story without me showing her a picture on Instagram (guilty!). Karissa mentioned that I am often day dreaming during our conversations, which sometimes makes her feel like I think she is boring (not true...I just get distracted easily). My mom and I both said that I was people-oriented, however Karissa said that I was very content-oriented. Karissa said, "You always have to know every little detail in the story, or exactly what someone said. It's like you are a detective."
I found it interesting that my mom and I was the same for every scale. Karissa was close for the most part but I was a little surprised that she said I was content-oriented, because I like to know details. I just thought it was because I was nosey, but she told me that I am always asking questions and making her repeat stuff.
I learned that I really need to work on my aggressiveness score, because it was high. It's funny, I always thought of myself as a nice person, but both ladies agreed that I am nice until we have a disagreement. I don't want to be that person, and I was to improve, so now I have some stuff that I can improve on.
Until next time!
Cierra
Cierra,
ReplyDeleteThat is great that there were similarities with you all in at least one area. In my opinion this mean that you all have the same personalities and get along great when communicating. Everyone can use some advice when they are upset, however everyone see another side of you are upset, that's not a surprise I wouldn't think. Doesn't it may you feel funny when you have two people that is close to you to say these things that you know maybe true about you? I know how you feel because my mother tell me all the time on how I communicate when we are speaking but I feel comfortable with talking with her and other family. Enjoyed your post!
Kim